Sunday, May 30, 2010

10 Steps to Great First-Time Cunnilingus

Cunnilingus is the art of making love to a vulva and vagina with your mouth and tongue. If your new lover is a cunnilingus virgin, or she has just never received cunnilingus from you, then her first time may be a little scary. For some women, negative thoughts about their genitals interfere with their ability to enjoy cunnilingus. A woman may worry about everything from the appearance of her vulva to issues like genital odor and genital taste.

You can help put your lover at ease by being complimentary and positive about her genitals. There is little more exciting to a woman than to know that her man finds her delicious, meaning that you enjoy the taste, smell, and feeling of her vaginal juices. At the same time, there is little less exciting to a woman than to think that you don’t like the taste and smell of her most intimate region. Once she's relaxed an comfortable with you, following these ten steps should take her to new heights of pleasure and ecstasy!

1) With first-time cunnilingus you MUST be gentle with her. Stroke and kiss her back and legs, and then only when she is ready, move to the vulva and lick and kiss it gently.

2) Lick around the vaginal opening. Run your tongue around the entrance and caress her gently with your gliding motions. She may like circular motions or a light licking motion across the entire opening.

3) Probe her vagina with your tongue. Stick it in as far as you can. See if you can replicate the thrusting motions that you normally do with your penis. After every few thrusts, bring your tongue up to her clitoris for a couple of licks, and then resume your probing.

4) Run your tongue up and down the entire length of her inner labia on both sides. Use the tip of your tongue and then use the full width of your tongue. Make sure that you are grazing over her clitoris during this process, too. You can also include her perineum area between her vagina and anus.

5) Apply indirect pressure to her clitoris by circling all around it with your tongue. You may need to stop holding her labia lips open for this part. Some women, who can’t take direct pressure, respond better to indirect pressure. When you are holding apart her labia lips, you are making the clitoris more pronounced, and it could possibly be too much. Ask her.

6) Apply direct pressure by continuing to hold her labia lips open, and licking directly on her clitoris. Try making quick, flicking motions on her clitoris with your tongue, up and down or back and forth. You can also change it up and move your tongue in small circles around her clitoris in one direction and then the other..

7) Another thing to try is to suck her clitoris into your mouth and then gently suck on it as you would her nipple. As you are sucking on it, you can use your tongue on it at the same time.

8) When you are devoting your mouth and tongue to her clitoris, you can also incorporate your fingers during this time by fingering her vagina. You will help to stimulate the G-spot if you bend your fingers gently into a “come here” motion while inside her.

9) You can easily add rimming or analingus to oral sex if she is comfortable with it. There are many nerve endings at the entrance to the anus, and many women are surprised to find out how stimulating that area can be.

10) As a woman nears her climax, she may want more direct stimulation. In general, fast, rhythmic stimulation is most effective at causing climax. As the moment arrives for her to orgasm, lick her clitoris hard and fast. Many women enjoy strong stimulation while having an orgasm, so keep it going until she asks you to stop.

After her orgasm, don't leave her alone just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress her breasts. Keep making love to her quietly until she's come all the way down.

Performing cunnilingus can be one of the most wonderful things you can do for a woman. Oral sex done right can take your partner to new heights of pleasure and ecstasy! However, cunnilingus is a delicate skill, requiring technique, practice, and knowledge to get it right. To discover the forgotten oral sex secrets to make her climax more often, even if she’s never had an orgasm before!, click here.

1 comment:

Naughty Nikki said...

Although it would not be a first for me, you have some valuable tips in this post. Thanks for sharing!